The reason we may feel more anxious than we should lies in an unusual place: Self-hatred. If we think of ourselves as ‘bad’, then surely bad things must happen to bad people. One of the ways of calming down is to learn to unpack the origins of our self-suspicion and lay the ground for a more self-loving and compassionate future.
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“The temptation, with dealing with anxiety, is always and invariably to focus on the ostensible cause of our worry: the journey to the airport, the forthcoming speech, the letter one is waiting for, the presentation one has to hand in… But if we proceed more psychologically, we might begin in a different place. With great kindness and no disrespect, we may step past the objective content of anxiety and look instead at something else: how the anxious person feels about themselves…”
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Legit ive just been described in a 4 minute video from 2020
I feel unworthy because and I get it now, I hate being a burden. I love my parents and they love me, but I was born different with an handicap and I constantly feel like a failure to them, even if they tell me I'm not. I don't think it will ever change, trust me I've tried, but every one I know seems to have labbeled me as someone with anxiety. Maybe I'm just meant to be alone =(
Recognize your self talk through journaling the negative thoughts you have and write down the positive alternative, every day for 10 minutes. Feel it in your body. Forgive yourself and start again. You are here to learn self-love and self-empowerment. Stay aware of any tension in your body. If there is tension, you are having negative thoughts. Good luck to you.
I watched this video in hopes of finding out something i didnt know about my self or what to do, but i already knew and tried everything. I tried to look in here to see a missing link that can solve my problem but i knew, i always know about these things and understand them about my self. What the fuck… Why do i still look for hope, why not give up… i dont know, its not because of other people and the potential harm my death will do to them that i want to be alive. If everything has no meaning and all is random then why do anything, and if everything has meaning why is all of the good always punished and the bad rewarded and why do people behave so horrible to people that they hold very dear and create for them the trauma for the rest of their life? I dont know… I dont know… I dont fucking know.
Half of me is narcissist and half of me hates myself 😵
I suppose this could be the way it works for some people, but I let go of hating myself bc of my anxiety, depression and ocd a long time ago…I hate them now, not me. I am angry and bitter about my life and I suffer so much that I wish I hadnt been born…just like anyone born with a painful life-long physical condition might feel. But I like who I am as a person.
I think all this talk about how one should love himself instead of hating is useless: all the confident people I know never think about their attitude towards themselves, they are who they are naturally. So you either think about yourself negatively, or don't think much at all.
Every answer I would give was selected in this Video
and now in America we have a mad man Donald Trump frightening us even more than just our own private fears are !! who Who WHO are the gullible people that put a lying, foul mouthed, double talking felon in the White House threatening to cut our life lines to health and well being !!
This is multiplying my unhappiness because he's attempting to take away the America I've/we've loved all our lives, that we've been proud to call ourselves, that the rest of the free world has tried to emulate or has become like. This has a lot of bearing on my self esteem, that for the very first time in my life and every good American's lives since its formation as a democracy there's the possibility that Shitrump is going to turn it into a monarchy, a dictatorship; the red white and blue no longer respected or loved, my home torn apart by he and his despicable cronies promising tax breaks to the corporate CEOs and CFOs by taking OUR programs and rights away… And why DO they, who sent their work to 3rd world countries to cut labor costs who are wealthy from it beyond imagination deserve tax cuts when they are the REAL traitors causing the demise of 'Made in America', and becoming made in China, made in Taiwan, made in India, putting their fellow Americans OUT of work..These owners deserve tax cuts ?? Shitrump is calling for this simply to gain their loyalty, their support..for if he were not in office now, he'd be, and should be in ;;;[]x[]x[]x[]x[]x[];;; prison..
So now I am not only sad and frightened over my own predicament with personal problems, poverty, old age, loneliness and regret…but sad as well for what is being done to my own country.. worried if congress and the courts will finally put a stop to this and restore sanity to government and respect for the constitution which has been every true American's greatest possession for 250, two hundred fifty years, under the red white and blue, Ole Glory…
Trump must be stopped or democracy will be no more, America the same as Germany, beginning circa 1939 and Trump having declared in his campaign, "I want generals like Hitler had" !!….
I'm agnostic, yet still say, let us pray:
Dear God, take the pain away from Americans and all who are suffering in the world at the hands of fascists, bullies, liars, thieves, phonies, and felons…
Amen~
My brother bullied me relentlessly and always belittled me, pushed me around and embarrassed me in front of our family and his friends my entire childhood. It affected my school life and made me a shut in. He later had the nerve to tell me I had “low self-esteem” as a teen. GEE I FUCKING WONDER WHY
Nah bro it's ok everytime i go doing a face joy or laugh we think im so crazy and SOO weird but it's ok man ig just have no friends and isolate yourself 😛
Why would someone hate themself??? I don’t understand that
I still hate myself and wonder why was I the one born, why couldn't my brother be the one born and I died, maybe the world would be better that way because I ended up trying too hard in life and always being let down so I do what I'm comfortable with, letting myself down, makes me feel better
I made my counselor cry in many counseling sessions she said I have never had a client hate themself as much as you do and the fact you started so young(9 years old and I am 33 years old now) is heartbreaking
but it get worse not only do I feel my emotional pain constantly but I am a Clair and empathic person the worst thing about being this is I can feel and take on other emotions as my own but I can’t fully take their pain completely away from them so they don’t have to feel it anymore and is something I wish I could do with every fiber of my being the only feels that exist for myself is pair self hatred the only love I feel inside is for other causing me to have a deep desire to suffer so other don’t have to I am to broken but other don’t have to be and I don’t want anyone else to ever feel in anyway like I do and I constantly feel extreme guilt that i can only share in their pain with them and not take it completely on for them so they never have to 😭💔
For some reason I do this to the point where people think I hate them and my life continues to spiral down so I’m either gonna belt myself in my closet or a tube and car one of these nights
I just get rejected from asking a girl out to go on a date. I wondering all the time whether I approached her right or not. But, as above said, I tell her how I feel early, that I found her exceptionally beautiful, and I want to ask her out. But, she said that she choses rather not to going out with me. I wonder if I approached her not good enough, not long enough. But, I do think that I saved up a lot of time. And more importantly, I was able to walk out with my dignity intact. I said that I was very delighted to have know her.
this video is triggering me kinda. 😭😂🤯
No. This isn’t always the case. For example, I don’t get anxious and shit myself constantly before going to the doctors office because I’m “hating myself”
Oh for crying out loud! You don’t know what you’re saying.
3:30 started giving me Hella anxiety 😂 Strongly disagreed with all…😅
I don’t want to be here anymore
I'm so stressed my hair is falling out
wow great video
2025 anyone😭
Why do I feel drained, hate them soo much 😢. I don't want to hate my origin
I hate myself 100% and have anxiety. I just cannot help but belittle myself even more every time people call me horrible names
Maybe you have Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. When you are anxious, you soon learn the world/people don’t like your company that much. It’s a catch 22. You should not discount neurodiversity such as those with hypermobility (commonly anxious).
I want to cry
That’s ok cause I got no self esteem, hopefully someone gets my reference
People think this a joke but this so real
I hate myself so much. Everything I do just seems to fail miserably. I can’t be happy about anything about myself. I’m so tired and I can’t do this anymore.
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I hate it when people are like "just think positively!" "Just love yourself more" "stop overthinking everything" … Like that's easy to say but how does anyone just completely change the way they think?? What?
What if your self-hatred is actually justified because you have no good qualities?