Work & family balance-
This is the struggle that all professionals face but for this conversation it was focused on Special Operations to illustrate the common factors we all face as humans trying to find the balance.
The balance is a mystical thing that very few of us have and even fewer actually know we should be trying to find it.
When your passion becomes your purpose and ultimately becomes your primary source for providing for your family, it often takes on a different dimension and that’s where both worlds collide.
Your work schedule isn’t allowing time for your family because it takes a lot of training time to mitigate the risk or further develop your skillset.
You’re almost living opposing lives from your family for weeks, months or even years because that’s what the job requires, i.e. Military, Police, Fire, Doctors and the list goes on.
You must develop a dial and not a switch, using your time wisely and being able to detach the two worlds will allow you the opportunity to fully focus on one thing at a time.
This requires active participation on dialing up your focus and intensity for whatever should be the primary focus, when it’s family, make them your total priority because you don’t have the free time to waste.
When it’s time to focus at work, be an absolute professional without distractions, you’ll start feeling fulfilled on both fronts and not sacrificing one for the other.
At the end of the day, we are all struggling with the same thing and no matter how successful you might be, we can’t buy more time.
Invest in developing dials, not switches, learn from my mistakes.
#gbrs #gbrsgroup #mindset #skillset #balance #family #thankful #sacrificesforlove
00:00 – Family Reality In The Teams
02:13 – Fear Of Dying
04:58 – Resenting The Family
10:32 – Prioritizing Job Over Family?
16:40 – Team Is Not For Me
17:49 – If Not Me Then Who
19:24 – In Love With The Teams
20:23 – Being An Idealist
25:05 – Captain Brad Geary
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Soooo…the other day I saw a thumbnail of DJ….and I was like "Wow, he looks a lot like Shia Labeouf there". And NOW, I can't unsee it. I see it everywhere now. This entire interview…I'm seeing Shia. Just thought I'd download a problem onto you all as well. 😂
Edit. I do enjoy the channel and content a lot. 🤘
Now that I’ve hit 7 years in the military, I’ve seen how lucky I have gotten. I married my high school sweetheart before shipping off to BCT, but she’s a year older than I am so she graduated HS ahead of me, moving away shortly before graduating causing us to have a long distance relationship for a little over a year. I shipped over right after I graduated and my initial training lasted 11 months. Deployed after a year of being in my duty station and being gone most of the time my first 3 years in the Army. Now, she’s used to it, to where she understands when I have to leave, and can’t wait til i get home. She’s definitely the soldier in the relationship and has the hardest job. She flips the switch when she needs to, and turns it off when I arrive. Blessed to have her in my life.
Can I get the name to the rubber band bracelet he is wearing looks nice:)
I loved my time in the Corps! You’re spot on! I only had a “switch”. Barely now learning how to use the “dial”. I got out at 10 yrs because my daughters would all have been grown and out of the house if I didn’t! I was gone 7.5 yrs of that 10, had bo relationship with my kids and my marriage was dying! Both the beat choice i ever made and the hardest choice. My Purpose though now is to be a professional husband and father!
The rules and just straight nonsense that exist in the regular Army Infantry is exactly why I'm getting out when my contract ends. toxic leadership just ruins things.
Signing up for the navy in the next couple of weeks, hoping to get into SWCC.. big dreams and aspirations and although i won’t be a seal, i hope to half the operator DJ is in the accountability aspect.
You knew what you married for, love. If you want them home and genuinely love them, let them know and let them go.
Knowing that you have to be a mother/father, friend, and fixer would be best. You have to be independent and have the ability to feel nothing comfortably at home while they are away. Knowing your man is a good, loyal person to you, but his brothers come first. Love conquers all. I'm not being naive. Keep your body for the one. Otherwise, there is no trust and no fun. It can be done x
He is right on point, when he stated that it makes life easier to just stay away. To not have to think about what's going on back at home. 2/75 1991-1996 RLTW.
There is so much knowledge in this video, props to DJ and the team. Thanks for your service
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I hope you feel better after you vent big guy. Sounds like you could talk to your kids on deployment. Not to take anything away from your experience, but it sounds like a blessing to me.
Sounds like you didn't get drafted at 18 and sent to the Ia drang valley as a member of the ASA attached to airmobile like my dad. Were you in firefights every night? Combat 270 days a year for 4 years? You were able to talk to your family? You know your kids? What do you know about agent orange. You had night vision? Did the NVA skin your dog? How many people did you kill with a hatchet? Did you get denied VA benfits for 30 years since you got sent to cambodia? Do you still cry yourself to sleep at the age of 79?
Nice flag… Youre a dual red coat citizen? What all countries other than America do you serve? Ever think about serving your own people?
DJ SHIPLEY IS A SCAM AND FRAUD LOOKS LIKE A RAPIST
What was the name of that leadership podcast DJ mentioned? I didn’t catch the name. Thanks in advance.
Much love and respect for you brothers. Deployments are never easy. I did 26 years as an enlisted on the Naval aviation side of the house. You’re in a perpetual state of workups, detachments and deployments so true what he said about officers coming in and trying to change things up just for their own fitness report. Navy always has had a bad habit of knee-jerk reactions to events.
And does Israel appreciate the sacrifice?
Nope
"There is no hunting like the hunting of man, and those who have hunted armed men long enough and liked it, never care for anything else thereafter."
This has been the missing piece of the puzzle in my life. Graduated top of my LE class of 33, got engaged right after to my now wife and failed field training. Got released with another agency not long after, but have struggled ever since with finding the warrior spirit again. Hearing DJ talk about focus and "the dial" especially was the clarity I'd been missing. Thank you, Sir!
Like my wingman said once never trust a dude who's is a straight cherry 😅 love ya DJ!
Must be frustrating integrating back into society from working with, and being surrounded by, such incredibly high achievers. Must be quite an adjustment.
Heavy! Respect to DJ!
I purposely rarely called home or emailed. It makes it way worse. You must focus on the mission and giving everything, while remembering your “why” but keeping them at a distant.
Nice SAS plaque, the best!
Always a great show and great outlook thank you Mr. Shipley and thank you for your service
You can see how much DJ misses it so much.
Tragically enough this happens to civilians too with work that are dangerous as soon as you take your mind off task.
I’m joining the army soon. I wanna be a green beret one day
If not me then who? Send me!
You look just like your dad. I love his phony seal show. Just found it and this last couple weeks we turn it on for some laughs when we cook dinner.
Personally being a vet the last thing i would want on tour is a phone call home . I just think you dont need that weight whilst your trying to do your job . It just gives you more to worry about , when you need to concentrate on the job at hand .
DJ, you gotta do a video with your dad 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸That would be awesome!
Love all the videos..No military but after 20 in corrections and approaching 10 as a cop alot of what DJ talks about applies..Keep it going!!
Plan on restocking any “be a pro” gear in the future??
Married guys had so many more distractions, worries, and made life hell at times if they were in leadership positions because they didn't wanna go home. If you are young and want to join the military, do not get married!!!
DJ have your ever done the Murph workout?
Your the man Shipers!
Those wifes dont want it, they just adopt it…get lost
It’s a realistic take. To function in certain condition requires putting things away, which is sometimes detrimental to the individual and those around them. Where people encounter dramas is when they retain this approach when there’s an opportunity to unburden or whatever.
It’s easier said than done.
The amount of accountability DJ has is insane. About to hit 10 years in September and just working on the accountability piece with myself. That breakdown of switches and dials will be effective. Appreciate the advice.
Amazing insight 🇬🇧
Grateful for you guys. Thank you 🙏🏼
DJ is probably my all time favorite seal
Great and amazing video💯
Thank you for honesty!
Respect ⚓️🫡